We all encounter suffering—whether through illness, loss, disappointment, or inner conflict. In such moments, we often ask ourselves, “Why does God allow this to happen?”
It is one of the deepest questions of our existence, and it touches our soul.

In this article, I would like to show you different perspectives on suffering and pain—spiritual, theological, and practical—and point out ways in which you can find God and your own path even in difficult times.

The classical theological perspective

Many spiritual traditions attempt to explain the experience of suffering:

• Free will: We humans have the freedom to make our own decisions. But sometimes the consequences of these decisions cause pain—for ourselves or for others.
• Sin and seperation from God: Suffering can be a consequence of separation from the divine or of the harm that occurs in the world.
• Trial and growth: Suffering can teach us to discover our inner resources, strengthen our empathy, and mature spiritually.

Even if we don’t understand everything, these perspectives show that pain often has a deeper meaning—even if it remains hidden at first. Anyone who has experienced an immense loss can tell you: it changes us on a deeper level. We are no longer the people we once were.

The Bible teaches us different perspectives on suffering and pain. Some understand it as part of the Christian path, while other passages refer to God’s comfort even in the most difficult times: “The righteous must suffer much, but the Lord helps him through it all.” Psalm 34:20.

Suffering is part of life; the question is, how can we learn to deal with it?

Spiritual and personal perspective

Suffering can be more than just an unpleasant state. From a spiritual perspective, it is often a teacher that leads us to ourselves. Every challenge offers the opportunity to grow inwardly and become more conscious.

Our soul can unfold its greatest strength in the darkest moments. Pain can sensitize us, open us up to life, and help us deepen our connection to God or our inner source. The truth is: we get to know ourselves best in our pain. In the moments when we overcome our fears and suffering, we create a new version of ourselves. We become the person God wants to see in us.

Sure, we are hurt and more vulnerable, but don’t we also become stronger, more empathetic, more confident? As long as we don’t stand still, as long as we don’t shift our burdens onto others. As long as we want to grow – as long as we are on a path that can be made easier with God’s help.

Reflection: When have you gained inner strength from a difficult situation? What lessons has your pain perhaps already taught you?

But the question of why God allows pain and suffering goes even deeper.

Pain can be a teacher. Suffering can mean growth. And loss can lead to transformation.

But we must also understand that the suffering in this world is not God’s will.

Those who cause suffering do not follow God’s will—they are far from walking with God. It is not God’s will when suffering occurs. It is the will of the person who causes it. It is the free will of human beings that perpetuates suffering. For these people choose to make their suffering the pain of others.

Those who walk with God do not cause suffering.

Those who walk with God are not spared from experiencing pain – it is part of our experience here on earth.

But those who walk with God can bear their pain. God takes away part of our suffering if we only ask Him to.

Practical ideas for dealing with suffering

There are ways to allow pain without it breaking us:

Mindfulness & meditation: Consciously feel what is happening in your body and heart. Allow the pain to be there without trying to push it away.
Writing or praying: Express your feelings, share them with God or your inner self. This will help you find clarity and peace.
Small steps of self-care: Walks, breathing exercises, gentle rituals – even small actions can ease the pain and strengthen you.

It is often the gentle, daily steps that help us come to terms with suffering and pain.

Personal and spiritual encouragement

Even if we do not always understand the reason for suffering, there is one comforting certainty: God is present, even if we do not feel him immediately. We are not alone.

A short prayer or affirmation can help us find support:
“Lord, be with me in my difficult moments. Grant me clarity, strength, and the ability to grow even in pain.”

Even in the darkest hour, light is possible. We are held and guided.

If you like, you can find further help on my blog:

• My e-book “Therapy with God” – Here you will find words from God that can help you in EVERY situation in life.
• The free PDF “5 exercises to help your body relax”
• My workbook “The Little Emotion Coach – Overcoming Trauma and Narcissism”