— Trigger Warning —
A Question as Old as Humanity
The question of what happens to us after we die may be as old as humanity itself. Depending on belief systems and cultural backgrounds, we have developed many different ideas about life after death. The great question, therefore, is: Which of them are true?
My Truth as a Medium
My truth as a medium is this: Yes, heaven is real.
But the way we have lived our lives—and the way we die—determines what happens to us after death.
Death as a Gentle Transition
The way we die determines where we arrive. When death follows a long illness, or when a person is in a comatose state, dying is often a gentle transition—a friend we are allowed to welcome. In these cases, we are already being awaited on the other side.
Very often, loved ones who have passed appear days before the actual moment of death, coming to the bedside to prepare the soul for the transition. They come to guide us and accompany us across.
The soul is aware of this process and can often cross over freely and with relief. On the other side, we are received by those we have missed so deeply. Sometimes we are able to move freely in the afterlife immediately; sometimes this happens only after a period of reviewing and processing our life.
When Death Comes Suddenly
When death is sudden—through an accident or violent circumstances—the souls are also retrieved, but they are taken to a place that helps them process what has happened. It is a place of healing.
For mediums, these souls are not “available” for a long period of time—often weeks or months. Only once they have made peace with their life and their death are they free to decide how and where they wish to move within the afterlife.
Souls Who Turn Away From Life
It is different for those souls who choose to end their own lives. I do not wish to offend anyone, but the decision to take one’s own life is the final decision—it represents a final turning away from God (just as taking the life of another does).
These souls are not retrieved directly. They are taken by an entity I refer to as a guardian. This being is not an angel, but a constant companion to the soul from that moment on.
They are brought to a place—a space devoted entirely to their life. It is a place without God. The souls themselves decide how long they remain there. Work is done with them: they process their lives, face their decisions, and—accompanied by the guardian—may eventually leave this place. If they are able to make peace with themselves and forgive themselves, they are set free.
What Heaven Truly Is
Heaven is a place of infinite freedom.
A place without horizons, filled with colors our human eyes cannot perceive, and a beauty of such magnitude that it cannot exist on Earth.
Souls can wander anywhere. They can create the places in which they wish to dwell. In heaven, there are no borders, no limitations. There is peace. There is laughter.
The Places We Create Ourselves
This is why the contrast to those places—the spaces we must inhabit when our earthly life was far from our soul, far from love, and far from God—is so painful. It is the same confined space we already created during our lifetime.
The boundaries we set for ourselves remain.
If we chose a life of isolation and loneliness, this is what our place in the afterlife looks like. If we devoted our lives to aggression, this is reflected there. If we harmed others out of greed or hatred, our afterlife carries the same imprint.
What Can Truly Set Us Free
When we find ourselves in these places, only what could have freed us in life can free us there as well: forgiveness and love.
When the Ego Dies
The soul must not be confused with the ego. The ego dies with the body—and with it all excuses, fears, evasions, and lies.
What remains is the burden of guilt we have carried, and the question we must face:
Can I forgive myself now that I fully perceive the pain my choices have caused?
The Final Confrontation: Ourselves
After death, we are confronted with ourselves. We no longer view our lives from our own perspective—that experience has already been lived. Instead, we see our life through the eyes of those around us. Their pain becomes our pain.
What Awaits Us in the End
Those who live a life rooted in love—with highs and lows, with mistakes and remorse, with responsibility and humility, but never far from genuine love—will find that love is also what awaits them after death.
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